Mean Girls Invade Grade School: Bullying Starts Earlier Than You think – Mean Girl Series

Nasty comments via Facebook, suicides from incessant bullying, mean girl comments, being called gay and school yard fights are all stories  about middle and high school that are continually in the media.  What the media doesn’t or no one seems to be focused on is that mean girls and bullying actually starts in grade school.

My daughter is now in second grade.  This year my daughter has had to deal with girl bullies, popular girl cliques and crying jags from hurtful comments. I am stunned or maybe naïve that I have to deal with this now.  I like so many parents thought that this behaviour  would start in middle school. Wrong!!!!

 

But my daughter isn’t the only one. All the girls in her class are literally a pack of hormonal messes. Yes, in my opinion, hormonal.  What would account for  their moment to moment , up and down behavior. One minute, they’re all friends and the next, it’s “I don’t like you, your not my friend, I am not going to invite you to my birthday party.”

This week, one of the girls in her class was so upset that she was not chosen to go to the board that she yelled at the teacher for liking my daughter  more than her and then yelled at my daughter that she didn’t like her anymore. You could say this was extreme but my daughter’s feelings were so hurt because she and this girl are BFF.s.  Of course, by the next day, the little girl had calmed down and now likes my daughter again. Sure it resolved itself by the next morning, but I had to deal with a sad, crying girl all night and morning.

“Why was she being so mean to me and why would she say those mean things?  My daughter kept asking all the way home and during dinner.

“Sometimes, people just have  bad days or maybe she just a tad jealous, I don’t know.” I tried consoling her but to no avail.

She literally moped around all night.

I told her that “I know you don’t understand now but this is going to get easier. As you get older, people are just going to say mean things.”

She sadly said, “I know.”

It took quite a long time for her to go to sleep but she did finally. And do you think she forgot the incident.

On the walk to school, she kept wondering, “Do you think “M” is going to talk to me when we get to school?”

“I am sure she will.” I am saying it reassure, praying lord, I hope this wackadoo is nice today as I can not deal with this another day.

And did “M” to talk to my daughter. Of course, in fact the little girl ran up to my daughter and hugged her as thought nothing had ever happened.

I just shook my head thinking,  I am so looking forward to driving her to college. This is going to be a long 10 years until that day.

Stay tuned – this is so not over.