So much of my current relationship with daughter is how I would describe it? Basically, every day is all about reminding my daughter about this that and the other or should I say being annoying (her words not mine) about “doing her homework, is she all caught up with her school work, her chores, cleaning her room, where is she going, who are you hanging out with, don’t forget to text me when you get to where you are going,” you get the idea. When I write that long winded list, I realize that it is a constant and daily barrage of although I refuse the use the word negative.
It’s hard to find the daily positive and praise dealing with my daughter because it just is. But this past week, I did praise her behavior at her godmother’s bridal shower.
For teenagers, I think the ultimate in “please dont make me” is hanging out with adults. Admittedly, when I told her we were both going to the Bridal Shower, I did not get the eye roll, just a simple “okay.”
The Bridal Shower which was lovely as you can imagine was filled with all women and not one person her age except for my friend’s fiancee’s daughter who is 19.
My daughter is not exactly a Chatty Cathy around adults. Duh, she is a typical teenager who is not exactly enthusiastic when she responds who also happens to respond in one word.
I know how hard it is talk to my daughter which I chronicled in Why Going to Dinner is Important to Our Mother Daughter Relationship so I was nervous that she would be all mumbly mouth and be on her phone the entire time.
She was real trooper. Mind you, her other godmother, S. made a point of introducing her to others at the shower. She actually shook hands and stayed put answering questions rather than running back to her seat at first chance. Let’s be real, it wasn’t like she wasn’t on her phone, she was but she did pay attention during her godmother’s thank you speech and opening gifts. She got up to meet her godmother’s mother. Admittedly, she did not pull the roll your eyes or look visibly angry.
I was very happy that she smiled, shook hands and made small talk. I think her godmother was first surprised for surprise bridal shower but I also think she was happy to see her god daughter in attendance. Would she have upset at her not being there, may be not but I have to think it meant a lot to her see her there along with all the important and significant women that are part of her life. And her god daughter is one of those significant women.
Long story short, I told my daughter how proud of her I was that she went with me and that she did an amazing job at the bridal shower.
Next month is the wedding and I am sure she will be happier that she will be sitting a table with the groom to be’s kids who are bit older but they aren’t “old.