I will admit that I don’t always remember every little thing that is going on in my personal life. Two years ago, I forgot my daughter’s godmother’s birthday dinner because I had forgotten to put the date on the calendar and had to rush out without makeup or showering arriving to restaurant 20 minutes late (I rarely pay for taxis.)
That said, dealing with my teenage daughter is another thing all together, I feel like every time I agree to something, my daughter comes back with some nuanced comment I don’t recall.
You may say, what kind of parenting is going on here. Let me set the record straight! Whatever she thinks I agreed to, I am positive I did not agree to it. I am sure I respond to every request or ask like a politician using vague words like “I will consider it” or “Let’s cross that bridge when we get to it.” But the arguments and the yelling (me) just goes on and just ends up with me losing my temper or being frustrated.
Yes, I agree that my daughter should just be quiet but do you have a teenager? If your teenager doesn’t argue with you, good for you (and I don’t say that sarcastically but with envy.) My daughter for better or worse is a world class debater. If only she would use her debate skills for good like the debate team. Alas, I digress.
I decided just like decisions that are made in work meetings, I would send a recap of our discussions that clearly states what was discussed, action items and either a recourse of not following through or reward of accomplishing all the items.
My daughter must send back an email that she agrees with what was communicated in the email.
Does that sound extreme? Maybe but frankly I would rather have documentation so there is never a dispute in what was discussed. I would make her sign it but thought that was over kill. But who knows, maybe Judge Judy will have a show one day where she mediates teens and their parents.
I Would love to hear your thoughts on how you resolve arguments with your teen. And if your teen just follows through on what you discuss, again count yourself luck from this envious parent.